People only want to be successful, to be happy. But few people in the world can be successful. Many people cannot succeed in many things. Many have become successful even from poverty. But today's discussion is about some strategies by reviewing the secret of success of many such world famous successful people. If you want to establish yourself as a successful person then apply the strategies given here.
Compliment people:
Man does not live by eating alone. Like the body, his mind also needs food, one of which is praise. Think about how you feel when someone says two good things about you! When someone praises, how the mind flies all day long, how long it lasts. This thing happens to others too. So tell people what they are dying to hear. Saying those things will make you like them. And you will see that you are very satisfied by saying the words. Don't be stingy with praise. If you get the slightest reason, open your heart and praise. yes,
i. The praise is meant to be understated. Don't praise if you can't do it from heart.
ii. Praise people for their good deeds, not the person.
Appreciating someone's work is not uncomfortable because it has nothing to do with flattery, since the reason for the praise is specific, there is no room for confusion, there is no room for bias and it sounds much more credible. It also motivates people to do better. So the form of the compliment should be something like this – “What I saw Mr. Russell, your performance last year was great.” (Not saying "very devoted to your work".) "You did the yard-end report very quickly this time, Sonya!" (Not saying "You are such a maid") "You didn't make the garden alone, Mr. Sohag!" (Don't say "You're so nice") Be specific about what you're complimenting.
Key to happiness:
Make it a habit to pick at least three people apart every day and say something good about them. See what happens in your mind. This is the key to happiness. The joy of seeing them overflow with joy and gratitude as a result of your praise is different. There is no less satisfaction in giving than in receiving. Check it out.
Criticize others politely:
There is real benefit in criticism if it is done for good. If your intention is to correct the faults of others, to give knowledge or to belittle them, then you may be able to clear the mind, but nothing will be gained. Instead, make enemies, because nobody likes to be blamed. But if your real intention is to correct someone, you will get much better results if you follow the seven rules.
1. Criticize in secret:
Keep the door closed and your throat down and take care not to overhear these words in any way.
2. Before you start criticizing, first talk about the good aspects of the person:
Creating a friendly environment makes the criticism much more tolerable. (Mishta Kahibe-Upanishad)
3. Criticism should be impersonal:
Criticize the work, not the person.
4. You show the way:
If you tell someone he is wrong, tell him what to do right.
5. Just ask for cooperation, don't demand it:
The more help you get from asking someone, the more help you can get from them. Don't go there unless absolutely desperate.
6. Criticize a work only once:
Even the fairest criticism is only fair once.
7. End the criticism phase by being friends with each other and at the end you should think like this:
"And there is no enmity between us, now we are friends, let us work together with each other's help." And by no means should the tone be like this - "I've said what I have to say, now you handle yours too." Among the seven rules mentioned, this last one is the most expensive.
Sincerely thank the people:
It is not enough to be grateful for someone else's work or to be impressed by his courtesy, you also have to express that gratitude to him and acknowledge the courtesy. That is because people only like those who are grateful to them, appreciate their qualities. So by doing this you will get more cooperation from people. If you show gratitude to people by being helpful, you will almost always find them helping you more the next time. And despite feeling grateful, if you don't express it, most likely they'll do nothing for you, or very little.
But there are some rules for saying thank you-
1. Don't say 'thank you' just because you have to, say it with gratitude:
Let gratitude come out of you. People understand when you say thank you from the heart. It can also understand whether it is a word or not.
2. Give thanks in clear words, with clear pronunciation:
In whatever language you say thank you, the words should be clear, uncluttered and reach the ear. Say thank you in a way that sounds like you're feeling good, not like you're going to swallow.
3. Look at the face and say thank you.
There is a big difference between saying with your face to the wall and saying with your eyes closed. He who is worthy of thanks is worthy of being looked upon.
4. Thank people by name:
Thank someone by name. Thanking someone by name is considered a personal achievement. There is a big difference between saying "Thank you Himel Sarkar" and just saying 'Thank you'.
5. Look forward to saying thank you:
Find opportunities to thank people. The average person always says that if you don't say thanks, it won't work. But wise people find more reasons to be thankful. There is little doubt that nothing plays a greater role in the art of endearing people than the ability to say thank you in the right place at the right time. If you master this skill with the help of the rules given above, it will become an asset for you throughout your life.
Make an impression on others by being polite:
What others think about us depends a lot on us. In the beginning we are strangers to them, so our image in their eyes is almost what we show them. So we all should behave in such a way that people can see the good in us. Use makes people beautiful. If you want people to think good of you, to look at you with eyes of admiration, to respect you, then by your behavior you have to make it clear that you are worthy of it and you have to prepare yourself for it first. Be proud of yourself. It doesn't mean being arrogant, it's about having the same pride for who you are, what you do, where you work. Don't condone any inferiority even if there is a deficiency. Be who you are and walk with dignity. A few more words:
1. Be sincere:
Cheap flattery, false promises, inconsequential talk—don't go at all. Say only what you really want to say. I want you to believe in what you say.
2. Show enough enthusiasm:
What is the responsibility of others if you are deficient in your real work! A person's dedication can be found in his enthusiasm for his profession. Enthusiasm is contagious. The other party will also be encouraged by your own enthusiasm for your proposal.
3. Again, don't show too much interest:
If you show too much interest in the pick-me-up game, people suspect that something is wrong, and once they realize that you're desperate to get things done with them, they'll feel bad. Either they back down, or agree to tougher terms. Learn to hide your anxiety about whether it will work or not.
4. Don't belittle others while aggrandizing yourself:
Let your own qualities be your standard, don't belittle others to prove yourself bigger than them. Your own talent and drive will bring you real success. Do you need to drive over the bodies of others! When you stand out by your own talents and abilities, people's attention is drawn to you. But when you belittle others to make yourself look bigger, people's attention goes to him, you lose importance.
5. Don't attack anyone:
What's the point of saying anything if you can't say anything good about someone or something? The trouble with going on the attack is that it gets hit back or backfires. Attacking without that means revealing one's own weakness. Be smart, avoid confrontation, don't attack.
Munshiana to be followed:
Here are five rules that you can follow to buy a good reputation. These rules make the difference between a good speaker and a bad speaker.
1. Know what to say:
Don't open your mouth if you don't have a clear idea about what you want to talk about. Speak powerfully with confidence and authority. But this is only possible if the subject matter is at your fingertips.
2. Say the key word and sit down and read:
Don't overdo it and read the point. Till date, no one has been beaten for speaking less. If someone wants to hear more from you, he will ask himself.
3. Speak facing the audience:
What amount of work it does! Apart from that, as if he is worthy to listen to you, is he not worthy to look at? But the real benefit is that you can control the mood and length of your speech by observing the reaction of the audience in front of you.
4. Talk about topics that the audience is interested in hearing:
It's not what you want to say, but what the audience wants to hear that matters. Let your audience's interest be the criterion, not yours. A surefire way to win people over as a good speaker is to tell them exactly what they want to hear.
5. Don't speak in a speech style:
Don't go to lecture. Not everyone can do that. Say it like you say ten other words. Whatever you say, simply say it, it will work.
